BE CONSISTANT TO YOUR METHODS OF DISCIPLINE AND HOW YOUR GOING TO PUNISH YOUR CHILD. CHILDREN WILL LEARN THAT THERE ARE PREDICTABLE CONSEQUENCES FOR MISBEHAVING IF YOUR CONSISTANT.
THINK AHEAD. ALWAYS BE PREPARED FOR WHAT YOU ARE GOING TO SAY TO HELP YOUR CHILD UNDERSTAND HIS OR HER CONSEQUENCES. WINGING IT WILL BE INEFFECTIVE AND WILL HAVE YOU REACT MORE NEGATIVELY.
SET A DAILY ROUTINE AND STICK TO IT. THIS SHOULD INCLUDE MEAL TIMES, SNACKS AND BEDTIME.
ALWAYS BE SURE THE SURROUNDING ARE SAFE AND ENCOURAGES EXPLORATION. PREVENTING YOUR CHILD FROM GETTING INTO TROUBLE OF OPENING CABINETS AND DRAWERS IY PUTTING SAFETY LOCKS ON THEM.
SET LIMITS THAT ARE APPROPRIATE FOR YOUR CHILDS AGE AND DEVELOPMENT. YOU ARE IN CHARGE AND SAYING "NO" TO YOUR CHILD IS OK. YOUR CHILDREN WILL CRY WHEN HE OR SHE DOESNT GET THEIR WAY AND THIS IS NORMAL BEHAVIOR FOR DEALING WITH FRUSTRATIONS AND SHOULD BE IGNORED BY YOU. IGNORE TEMPER TANTRUMS
AS STATED IN COOPERATION TIPS. GIVING CHOICES IS ENCOURAGED, HOWEVER NOT WHEN IT COMES TO THINGS THE CHILD HAS TO DO AS A RULE OF YOURS.
DONT GIVE IN TO YOUR CHILD. WHINING, CRYING AND TEMPER TANTRUMS ARE WAYS OF GETTING YOUR ATTENTION BECAUSE THEY KNOW IT WILL REACH A FRUSTRATION LEVEL TO YOU. IF YOU GIVE IN TO YOUR CHILD IT WILL ONLY TEACH THEM THAT THIS KIND OF BEHAVIOR IS AN APPROPRIATE WAY TO GET WHAT HE OR SHE WANTS.
LEARN TO IGNORE MINOR, HARMLESS OR UNIMPORTANT MISBEHAVIORS, SUCH AS FIDGETING.
MAKE PUNISHMENTS AND REWARDS IMMEDIATE. AVOID WAITING MORE THAN A FEW MINUTES TO PROVIDE CONSEQUENCES OF A BEHAVIOR.
AVOID REPEATING COMMANDS. YOU SHOULD GIVE A COMMAND AND IF NOT FOLLOWED, THEN YOU CAN REPEAT IT ONCE WITH A WARNING OF CONSEQUENCES FOR NONCOMPLIANCE WILL BE. IF NOT FOLLOWED A THIRD TIME DO NOT REPEAT THE COMMAND AGAIN, FOLLOW THROUGH WITH CONSEQUENCE.
DONT ARGUE WITH YOUR CHILD ABOUT PUNISHMENT. IGNORE ANY PROTESTS. YOU CAN TALK ABOUT IT LATER.
PLAN AHEAD. IF YOU ALWAYS HAVE DIFFICULTY IN CERTAINT SITUATIONS, SUCH AS SHOPPING OR HAVING COMPANY, GO OVER YOUR PLAN OF ACTION BEFORHAND, WHICH INCLUDES WHAT YOUR EXPECTATIONS ARE AND WHAT CONSEQUENCES OF MISBEHAVIOR WILL BE.
BE FLEXIBLE. LISTEN TO WHAT YOUR CHILD HAS TO SAY ON SOME RULES AND PUNISHMENTS.
USE "I" MESSAGES INSTEAD OF "YOU" MESSAGES. FOR EXAMPLE "I AM UPSET THAT YOU DIDNT CLEAN YOUR ROOM" INSTEAD OF "YOU MADE ME UPSET BY NOT CLEANING YOUR ROOM." YOU STATMENTS CAN SEEM MORE ACCUSATORY AND CAN LEAD TO ARGUMENTS.
AFTER DISCIPLINING YOUR CHILD, BRIEFLY EXPLAIN THE RULE AND WHAT YOUR EXPECTATION ARE AND WHAT THE APPROPRIATE BEHAVIOR COULD HAVE BEEN.