FAMILY VALUE TIPS
				WHAT ARE VALUES AND WHY DO WE NEED THEM? IN THE PRESENT TIME THERE ARE MANY BELIEFS AND STANDARDS AS WE GROW.  BELIEFS OF RIGHT AND WRONG THAT PROVIDE DIRECTION OF LIFE AND INSPIRE CONSTRUCTIVE BEHAVIOR IN YOUR CHILDREN. WHAT IS MOST IMPORTANT TO YOU: COMPASSION GENEROSITY HELPFULNESS WISDOM FORGIVENESS COURTESY PUNCTUALITY THRIFTINESS SELF RESPECTED OBEDIENCE PATIENCE RESPONSIBILITY DEPENDENCY COOPERATION HONESTY FAIRNESS KINDNESS TOLERANCE HUMILITY SELF DISCIPLINE LOYALTY COURAGE SELF ASSURANCE SPORTSMANSHIP GRATITUDE CREATIVITY JOYFULNESS MOTIVATION PERSEVERANCE FAITHFULNESS KNOWLEDGE RESPECTFULNESS
	1.  READ AND DISCUSS STORIES THAT SUPPORT YOUR BELIEFS 2.  MONITOR YOUR CHILDRENS MEDIA EXPOSURE THAT CAN UNDERMINE PARENTAL INFLUENCES 3.  SHARE YOUR APPROVAL WHEN PRAISWORTHY BEHAVIOR IS PORTRAYED IN THE MEDIA AND OR REAL LIFE, AND DISPLEASUR WHEN CORRUPT BEHAVIOR IS DISPLAYED 4.  COMMENT ON YOUR CHILD'S ADMIRABLE CONDUCT.  FOR EXAMPLE, "JOHNNY, IM SO GLAD THAT YOU REMEMBERED TO FEED THE DOG ALL BY YOURSELF." 5.  NAME YOUR OWN COMMENDABLE ACTIONS, FOR EXAMPLE, "WE RECYCLE BECAUSE IT HELPS US PROTECT OUR EARTH." 6.  BE POLITE AND CONSIDERABLE TOWARD OTHERS 7.  ALWAYS DO WHAT YOU SAY YOU ARE GOING TO DO 8.  SHARE YOUR TIME, TALENTS AND POSSESSIONS 9.  SET GOALS AND COMPLETE DIFFICULT TASKS 10.  DISPLAY WARMTH, SUPPORT, ENCOURAGMENT AND CONSISTENCY TOWARD YOUR CHILD 11.  SET HIGH REASONABLE STANDARDS FOR CHILD'S BEHAVIOR 12.  LISTEN RESPECTFULLY TO YOUR CHILD'S IDEAS AND FEELINGS 14.  OFFER YOUR CHILD CHOICES, BUT NOT CHOICES ON THINGS THEY NEED TO DO. 15.  TAKE TIME AND HAVE FUN WITH YOUR CHILD 16.  AGREE ON FAMILY RULES AND LIVE BY THEM.  NO TV DURING DINNER TIME FOR EXAMPLE 17.  DIVIDE CHORES AND WORK TOGETHER ON FAMILY PROJECTS 18.  PARTICIPATE IN RELIGIOUS ACTIVITIES, SCHOOL EVENTS AND COMMUNITY GET TOGETHERS 19.  CONSIDER HOW YOUR FAMILY SPENDS TIME AND MONEY 20.  REMEMBER THAT YOUR CHILD WILL ADOPT THE FAMILY VALUE THAT YOU DEMONSTRATE.
		HAVING THE UNDERSTANDING THAT FAMILY VALUE IS THE FUTURE OF YOUR CHILDREN PLEASE CAREFULLY READ THE FOLLOWING MESSAGE.  YOU CHILD WILL REPEAT YOUR WAYS AND THAT IS WHY IT SO IMPORTANT TO BE VERY AWARE OF YOUR RULES AND ACTIONS IN YOUR HOUSEHOLD. TREAT EVERYONE WITH RESPECT WITHOUT ANY AGGRESSION OR ABUSE, THIS IS THE NUMBER 1 LOST FAMILY VALUE.  TO DEAL WITH THE WORLD AT THIS PRESENT TIME IS STRESSFUL, BUT YOUR CHILDREN ARE NOT AT FAULT.  YOUR CHILDREN SHOULD BE JOYFUL AND HELP YOU GO ON THROUGH OUT YOUR DAYS THAT CAN BE STRESSFULL.  PUT A PICTURE OF YOUR CHILD AT YOUR WORKPLACE TO RELIEVE SOME STRESS.  EVERYONE KNOWS THAT IT IS HARD TO LEAVE STRESS FROM THE JOB, ON THE ROAD OR EVEN AT HOME.  ALWAYS DISCUSS YOUR NEGATIVITIES WITH YOUR SPOUSE AWAY FROM YOUR CHILDREN BECAUSE THEY WILL REACT BY MISBEHAVING, MABEY NOT IN YOUR PRESCENCE BUT IN SCHOOL, THEY WILL BE AGGRESSIVE TOWARD OTHER CHILDREN AND THEN WILL CAUSE STRESS AT HOME TO TRY TO DEAL WITH THAT. IF IT IS HARD TO DISCUSS YOUR FEELING BECAUSE YOU FEEL SO RAGED AND KNOW IT WILL TURN INTO A HIGH VOLUMED ARGUMENT THAT YOU COULD EXPOSE TO YOUR CHILDREN; TAKE A DIFFERENT APPROACH.  WRITE DOWN YOUR FEELING ON A PIECE OF PAPER BECAUSE SOMETIMES FEELINGS CAN BE EXPRESSED MORE ON PAPER AND HAND IT TO YOUR SPOUSE TO TRY TO DEAL WITH IT.  TRY COOLING DOWN OR TAKING A WALK BEFORE YOU START TO WRITE OR TALK TO YOUR SPOUSE BECAUSE MOST OF THE TIME WE TALK WITHOUT THINKING AND THEN ACTUALLY THINK ABOUT WHAT WE SAID AND THEN SAY TO OURSELVES, WE MAY HAVE BEEN WRONG.  LET TIME PASS SO YOU CAN HAVE A CLEAR HEAD ABOUT YOUR POINT . AVOID DISAGREEING IN FRONT OF YOUR CHILD.  IF A CHILD GETS MIXED SIGNALS ABOUT SOMETHING THIS WILL BRING OUT NEGATIVITY IN YOUR CHILD AND THEN YOU WILL HAVE A COMPLETE OTHER PROBLEM TO DEAL WITH.  IF YOU DISAGREE WITH SOMETHING THAT YOUR SPOUSE TOLD YOUR CHILD, TELL THEM IMMEDIATLEY BUT AWAY FROM THE CHILD.  THEY MAY NOT KNOW WHY YOU DO OR DO NOT WANT THE CHILD TO DO WHAT THEY ASKED.  HAVE AN UNDERSTANDING BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR SPOUSE THAT IF YOU GIVE THEM A BLINK OR A CLAP, IT MEANS THAT YOU DO NOT AGREE WITH WHAT THEY JUST SAID TO THE CHILD. GO TO A DIFFERENT PART OF THE ROOM TO DISCUSS IT.  IF YOU PUT YOUR CHILD IN TIME OUT BE SURE THE OTHER PARENT DOESNT TAKE THEM OUT OF TIME OUT BECAUSE IT IS YOUR DEAL WITH THE CHILD AND THEY WILL JUST DISRUPT THE POINT YOU WERE TRYING TO MAKE WITH YOUR CHILD. THE THINGS I MENTIONED MAY NOT BE EASY TO GET USED TO BUT THEY WILL WORK AND NO ONE EVER SAID THAT FAMILY VALUE COMES NATURALLY.